the five love languages the secret to love that lasts

I thought that spending quality time with my spouse was the way I can show him I love him. Find your partner's love language style, then choose to show love to your partner in that way (it's not about what YOU need to feel loved, it's about what YOUR PARTNER needs). Chapman says in this book that LOVE IS A CHOICE. but now he realizes that spending time with me is the best way to tell me that he loves me.ĭr. Before reading this book, my husband hated when I nagged about spending time together.

When in reality, personal contact is what he needs to feel loved. before reading this book, I just thought that my husband wanted more sex for selfish reasons. my husband feels unloved when we have a lack of physical contact. For example, my love language is 'quality time' and my husband's love language is 'personal touch.' Without quality time with my husband, I feel unloved. Our attitude toward eachother has greatly changed since we read this book.īasically this book explains that people feel loved in different ways.

After reading this book, we had hope that our problems can be resolved. That morning when we woke up, everything seemed hopeless for us. We read 120 pages that morning! We could not put it down! Both of us shed a lot of tears that morning, this book really hit home. Not expecting too much, one lazy morning I suggested to my husband that we lay in bed and begin reading this book out loud to eachother.

I decided to buy it so that my husband and I could read it together. I was about to turn to counseling when I heard about this book. Having serious marital problems, I was desperate for any kind of help. How I wish everyone would read this book!!! When things are tough at school, work or life in general, we now ask eachother freely 'What can I do to make your love tank full?' Sometimes only the passing of time will cure a family problem (example: problems at work), but our family's committment to express to eachother the variety of dialects between quality time, words of affirmation, and physical touch (which seem to be the most needed of the 5 languages in our particular household when outside problems occur) can make the hardest of times go by so much easier and faster. My family and I regularly ask eachother 'How full is the 'love tank?''. What a wonderful world we would have if we all understood the 'Five Love Languages' and spoke them to all we meet everyday!! The family is a great place to start. I wish I could give a copy of this book to every man, woman, and child. After I read it, I couldn't understand why I hadn't realized these concepts before. BEST GIFT I HAVE EVER RECEIVED, CHANGED MY ENTIRE LIFE

The five love languages the secret to love that lasts